Keys To An Effective Guidance Policy

Model desired behaviors

Use positive statements ("Keep your tricycle here on the path, Amy.").

Use encouraging statements related to actions rather than praise statements used to manipulate

Give choices whenever possible, but only when they are real (children love this technique)

Speak quietly and clearly, and keep directions simple.

Expect the best from children; don't be judgmental.

Redirect inappropriate behaviors, offering an alternative.

Whenever possible, allow and help children to solve conflicts.

Distinguish between "mistaken" and "bad" behavior.

Assist children in expressing feelings.

Expect exploration, testing of limits, experimentation.

Focus on three rules: (respect for living things, property, and the learning environment).

Set reasonable limits, and be firm about them.
1. Recognize the child's feeling
2. Set the limit, and
3. Redirect the behavior.